What is the measure of a man?

In an earlier blog I referred to my step daughters husband as decent but arrogant. This was unfair of me because as my daughter pointed out in a comment as I don't really know him. Her details of the real man she knows and loves also got me thinking...what does make the measure of a man?
Is it his financial success in life? While this can be an outward indicator of business acumen and just plain hard work; I don't feel it is an accurate indicator of a guy's MAN status. There are too many outside social and economic forces at work for wealth to be an adequate measure of a man.
Is it his accumulation of material possessions? Again, like money itself; this is a poor indicator of an individuals ability to "man up" or not. For some material things are of great import, for others not so.
Is it his marital status or if he has children? For many men this is also a really big deal, your not a "man" unless you have a wife and kids of your own. I have long felt this is an outmoded line of thought; it goes back to the old days when children; preferably lots of them, were needed to work on the family farm. Now there are many economic and social reasons for having less or no children.
So if it's not money, it's not material goods, and it's not family that defines the measure of a man, then what does?
I firmly believe it all boils down to one not so simple, simple concept - Honor.
A man too me is defined by his honor. This is my definition of honor; I am sure not all would agree but that's okay.

A man of honor does not give his word lightly, but when he does he sticks to it regardless of the cost.
A man of honor does his best to provide for himself and his family, sacrificing as needed to ensure the best results are achieved.
A man of honor does not lie, cheat or steal as these behaviors are contemptible.
A man of honor recognizes his own shortcomings and realizes that bad things happen; even when we do everything right.
A man of honor takes personal responsibility for his actions or lack thereof. This does not mean he never makes mistakes, it means he man enough to admit when he does.
A man of honor does not expect others to live by his code of conduct; as much as he wishes all people would.
A man of honor accepts others as they are. Giving the respect and trust that a person has earned by their conduct; they do not expect others to be someone they are not.

Always doing your best, even if you fall flat on your face, even if you go off the rails for a while; it is still possible for a man to regain the title of Honorable.
So this to me is the measure of a man; not his wealth or possessions, not his family or lack thereof, not his social status, or profession. It is his honor or lack thereof that defines him as a man.
Using this very definition I can't help but find my daughters husband to be an honorable man, and for that I give him the respect he is due and the time to get to know each other we need.
As I said, I was wrong when I stated that he was arrogant, my daughter was right to call me on this and I am man enough to admit it.
The road less traveled doesn't always go where we thought it would.